An umbrella term which embraces a matrix of sexual preferences, orientations, and habits of the not-exclusively- heterosexual-and-monogamous majority

Queer includes lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transpeople, intersex persons, the radical sex communities, and many other sexually transgressive (underworld) explorers

Packing – Wearing a phallic device on the groin and under clothing for any purposes including: (for someone without a biological penis) the validation or confirmation of one’s masculine gender identity; seduction; and/or sexual readiness (for one who likes to penetrate another during sexual intercourse).

Fag Hag – A term primarily used to describe women who prefer the social company of gay men. While this term is claimed in an affirmative manner by some, it is largely regarded as derogatory.

Switch – A person who is both a ‘Top‘ and a ‘Bottom‘, there may or may not be a preference for one or the other.

Top – A person who is said to take a more dominant role during sexual interactions. May also be known as ‘Pitcher.‘

Transvestite – Someone who dresses in clothing generally identified with the opposite gender/sex. While the terms ‘homosexual‘ and ‘transvestite‘ have been used synonymously, they are in fact signify two different groups. The majority of transvestites are heterosexual males who derive pleasure from dressing in “women’s clothing”. (The preferred term is ‘cross-dresser,‘ but the term ‘transvestite‘ is still used in a positive sense in England.)

So… the next time I decide to describe myself to someone on line or in a bar should I tell them that I am a Femme woman who loves dykes that are D&D and not on the D/L, who can ‘switch‘ any time they want and can never ‘pack‘ anything more than a lunch?

Will I tell them that I am a woman and a mom, I have a spoiled dog who sleeps in the bed with me (I have had worse in the bed believe me. ) I pee sitting down, put me knickers on one leg at a time when I do wear them. Continue reading →